This is a very nice mail regarding relationships.Sums up all the things
A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP -by Rev. Ronald McFadden An African proverb
states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you
marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let
lust, desperation, immaturity and ignorance, pressure from others or a
low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open,
and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see
as faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws,
vulnerabilities, pet peeves and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve,
you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing
bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs,
values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual
children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of
you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out
the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,
compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you
bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't
take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone
love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you
won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness
or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy,
neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy, loving and lasting relationship!
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in
a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication,
intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway
time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared
activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on the
voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests.
Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving
each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to
have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a
sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation.
Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer
or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will
Erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain.
Replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.

Raman.....This is for you.......

Let me start my blog by writing bout Raman,the man who has bought a tremendous difference to my life.Now the question arises why Ram and what is so special about him....( infact people who are in love tend to exaggerate about their partners ) but let me do it in a different way. Ram is one of the most dextrous person i have ever met.You have to listen to his one-liners and his sense of humour ( which i think is very attractive and adds up to his style ).He has such a alluring persona that you automatically get drawn towards him.His sense of adaptibility ,astute & expression makes him very endearing.
What makes him different from the rest are the situations which he had to face in his early years.Such situations, which probably most of us shudder to think of.He stood against all odds ,fought over them with a determination to succeed in life.Wht more can i say about him....
Ram I respect & love you for what you are and remain the same way.I am proud of you!!!!!!!! You have taught me the meaning of love,life & laughter and supported all my decisions without being judgemental .You have helped me in understanding the little nuances of life and enjoy each day as it comes.We have come a long way and invested a lot in this relationship to keep it going.I only wish that we retain this understanding and love for years to come.I know i am being very emotional (which anyways I am, almost 20 days in a month ) but it is a fact and this is something which i wanted to share it with everybody.Today is a special day ,as you enter your 29th year (Guys who are reading this...today is Raman's birthday ),i wanted to do something special and different (hope you like this surprise!!!! ).Could not get a better forum to express myself.Thank you for always being there and also being such an indispensable part of my life.Once again ......

Happy Birthday

This Blog is dedicated to you and us.
Ram I Love You.....Forever